It's Not Bad Luck
If you've been single for a long time and you want a relationship, there's a reason. It might be your standards (too high, too low, or aimed at the wrong things), your availability (emotionally or practically), or your patterns (choosing unavailable people, self-sabotaging when things get real).
The Four Patterns That Keep People Single
Therapists see the same four patterns repeatedly: fear of vulnerability, unconscious attraction to unavailable people, perfectionism in partner selection, and prioritizing independence to the point of isolation. Most people have one dominant pattern.
Why Self-Awareness Is the Fix
You can't change a pattern you can't see. That's why friends saying 'just put yourself out there' doesn't work — the problem isn't exposure, it's the filter you're running on the people you meet. Change the filter, change the outcome.
Take the Single Test
Rankd's single test is six questions designed to surface the pattern you can't see from inside it. It's quick, it's honest, and the results might explain a lot.