What Is Dunning-Kruger?
People with limited ability in a domain tend to overestimate their competence because they lack the expertise to recognize what good looks like. This applies to intellectual ability, social skills, and yes — dating and intimacy.
How This Shows Up
The person who thinks they're an amazing communicator but never asks questions. The person who thinks they're great in bed but has never asked for feedback. The person who thinks they're a great partner but has a string of failed relationships. In each case, the lack of skill prevents recognition of the lack of skill.
The Cure Is Honest Assessment
External feedback — whether from a trusted friend, a therapist, or a well-designed assessment — breaks the Dunning-Kruger loop. When you see your actual score, the gap between perception and reality becomes visible.