Should vs. Want
Society, parents, social media, and peers all program you with 'shoulds' — you should want a high-paying career, a family by 30, a certain lifestyle. Strip those away, and many people discover that what they actually want is quite different from what they've been pursuing.
The Clue Is in Your Energy
Pay attention to what energizes you vs. what drains you. Not what you think should energize you — what actually does. If you lose track of time doing something, that's a signal. If you dread something you supposedly want, that's also a signal.
Finding Your Edge
Your hidden advantage — the thing you're naturally good at — is often closely related to what you actually want. People who discover their edge frequently realize they've been ignoring it in favor of something more conventional. The Rankd edge test helps surface what you might be overlooking.